Are Pre-nups a good idea?
Mark Zuckerberg and his wife Priscilla Chan have one, Sheldon and Amy have one.
In fact Sheldon has a room mate agreement with Leonard to prevent small issues taking over the friendship and naturally you would be correct in thinking that that there was a girlfriend agreement with Amy.
It’s pure brilliance.
Both parties add their requirements and non negotiable into a consensual contact and sign the agreement.
The couple is truth fully about what each individual needs and what the relationships requires for the purposes of longevity, growth and sustainability.
I loved this idea so much that yes I got one.
I had a verbal one when we first got married but the lines were so blurred and the boundaries were impossible to see…
But as we grew together and found our feet we started to add to the post nup…
Relationship Contracts are incredible. You get to ask all the questions that are important… not just rely on a concentrated chemical rush of dopamine but to delve into relationship goals and expectations, discuss the big questions and see if the things that are different bind you or separate you… Are you able to be a team???
The Jewish Kattubah and the Islamic Nikah have always encouraged couples to utilise these contracts to talk about the fine print…The just in case.
The prenup! This is an amazing opportunity for a couple to outline their relationships requirements from financial, conjugal, food, shelter to behavioural for during a marriage, divorce or widowhood.
Most of us sleepwalk into coupledom and firefight situations as they arise.
Hindsight arrives when the situation is out of control. Things have reached a crescendo where hate is the overwhelming emotion. Allowing things to escalate from”LOVE” to resentment, Lust to contempt is pure suffering.
Outlining your expectations of each other helps you to understand the unwritten fine print FROM who puts the bins out to whether the toilet seat is up or down …sharing household duties, Boys nights? Girls nights? Holidays? Christmas? Creating and raising of the family… the who, what , how… when - The list is endless…
I have never been afraid to ask questions and I encourage and teach my clients to do the same… with softness… coming from your feminine energy… being open, being authentic, being true… and acceptance …. The longevity of a relationship depends on honesty and a sense of humour.